"Are you crying?" "There is no crying in......"

Finish that sentence. I can't tell you how many times in the last few months I have said it in my head. At work, at home, in the car. Everyday I have a new challenge, a new pain that is different from the day before, and yet, I get up every morning groaning, shuffling to the coffee pot and wondering if this pain somewhere in my body is just an ache that will go away as the day goes on or will it follow me until I go to bed. Then the cycle starts again the next day. No one will ever notice the physical pain I am in that I have learned how to cope with the pain. I still have to get up, go to work, be a mom, a wife, a friend, and still act like that there is nothing wrong except the ache of the "good knee" is the sign of arthritis and knowing, as my orthopedic Dr. puts it, "I'm screwed." Now, the point to all this wishy washy rant is tell you the two ways I have solved my mental debasing I go through everyday.

1. I have lost all sympathetic nodding to others that complain about their aches and pains, but do nothing to help themselves.

a. Do not look for me to agree with you. I am not listening to you. All I am thinking is you are complaining way too loud because I can not hear myself judging you. (Thank you Laura for that great quote) That is right people, I admit it! I am not saying nice things in my head about you. I am thinking that you are not helping yourself by getting every procedure done in the book, or getting a second opinion from another Dr. because the first Dr. did not tell you what you wanted to hear. Sometimes it really is tendinitis in your butt. Yes, this is possible, it is called an inflamed bursitis sack that sits by your hip bone. The best treatment for this is regular visit to your physical therapist, massage therapist because inflammation is normally caused by wear and tear. No, I am not a Dr. This is only an opinion through my experience and I recommend anyone who is concerned to go to the Dr. for the diagnosis.

2. Pay it Forward.

 a. Help those that need the help. My friend recently found out that she had a Cam impingement in one hip and a Pincer impingment in the other. She just got done with her first hip arthoscopy. She healing nicely, and she is even going to the physical therapist that I recommended to ghelp with her first bout of healing. The point is that I took my negative thoughts and helped her by answering questions she had and just being there for her. Her impingment just happened. There was no reason towards why her hips caused the impingment it was just wear and tear, but as a person that had been through the surgery twice before it was my duty as a friend and because I am a know-it-all I was meant to impart my wisdom of experience.  As I said from the beginning the main reason I write this blog is to share my experiences to make it easier for others.

I know this blog is kind of downer but as my friend Angie pointed out recently sometimes there is crying in life and not everything needs to be hidden behind your smile. You need to let people know it sometimes. This followed by the question, "Now tell me again what you did on a bike?"
That story is for next time.
Goodnight.